The Little App that Saved My Life...

28 February 2017


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I hate mornings!  For years and years I have struggled with getting up early in the morning.  I'm always late to wherever I'm going because I dread getting up and I drag around when I finally do get up.  This problem has cause me to suffer in my professional life and even in my social life.  I'd love to be one of those people who JUMPS up early in the morning and gets sooooo (stink face) much done but the truth is I work a lot better at night.  Oh yes, call me the night owl, baby!   I get a lot of stuff done in the midnight hour but the truthfully, the world is NOT kind those who are not morning people.  I have tried EVERYTHING- loud alarms, putting the alarm across the room, multiple alarms, you name it!  Nothing helped!  Not until I found one of the best apps that I have ever downloaded in my ENTIRE LIFE!   Enter Alarmy...  

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This app has saved me!  I promise, this is not a sponsored post at all.  The opinions here are all my own.  I love this app! 

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How Alarmy works:   There are several different settings for this alarm.  First of all, there are about 10 different alarm types but all of them are SUPER loud.  But not only that, you have to complete certain tasks or your choosing to turn it off.  For instance, you might have to take a picture of a certain thing in your house or shake the phone or do math problems, etc.  I chose math problem because I absolutely hate math almost as much as I hate mornings.  Anyway, I set the intensity to moderately hard and I have to do 3 math problems before I can turn the alarm off.  I've been using this alarm for almost six months and I have not hit snooze NOT ONCE since I have started using it. It taught me something about myself- before using this alarm, I would get to work and wouldn't completely wake up until about 1 or 2 o'clock in the afternoon.  I would be sooooo sluggish while getting dressed and soooo sluggish for the better part of the day.  Doing the math problems woke my brain up and I had to focus in order to complete them.  Being focused caused me to make better choices about whether or not to try and sneak in a few extra minutes of sleep in the morning.  Before, my groggy, sleepy brain would convince me that I had plenty of time when I really didn't.  Now that I am more focused in the morning, I'm also more focused during the day. I'm able to get more things done.  Yay!!  

I recommend this alarm app to anyone who struggles with getting out of bed and moving in the morning.  I can't say that I'll ever fall in love with mornings but I can say that they've gotten a little easier to tolerate using this app. Give it a try:

  Here for Android and Here for iOS

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Are you a morning person or do you hate them as much as I do?  Leave me a comment!






Until Next Time...

Accepting Insecurities is a Journey...

22 February 2017


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I'm a plus size woman and for the most part my insecurities are in check. But every woman, no matter what their size, has something that they are not particularly secure with when it comes to their body. Learning to love yourself despite your flaws, and even learning to APPRECIATE those flaws can be a lifelong journey because our bodies are always changing. One of my biggest insecurities is the size of my arms. Sometimes it's super hard to find coats and blazers that fit, especially if they are lined. I usually opt for clothing that has stretch in the arms just so that I can be comfortable. I also never really bare my arms unless I'm on the beach and it's REALLY hot. I hope that one day I can work up the nerve to go sleeveless but I am a work in progress. LOL
 
 
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The dress I'm wearing, I purchased last year over the holidays from eShakti. (sold out)  The best thing about this company is that you can get almost any garment on their site customized. One of my biggest pet peeves with plus size fashion is that most dresses are sleeveless. Why?!?! You would think that designers would make more dresses with sleeves especially since big arms is a very popular insecurity with plus size women. Usually when I buy a dress that is sleeveless I wear a jacket or cardigan over it and sometimes that can be kind of hot depending on the temperature. A lot of the dresses on eShakti's website are sleeveless but one of the customizations that you can choose is adding sleeves at any length that you want. Other custom options are the length, adding or taking away pockets, and adjusting the neckline. I didn't add sleeves to this dress and I can't remember why but I'm glad I didn't. I really liked pairing it with this jacket from Belks. It was a combination that wasn't too hot- especially since this time of year in Georgia has had some unreliable weather.
 
 
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Eshakti, dress customization, customized clothing, plus size clothing, denim dresses, denim plus size dresses
 
Eshakti, dress customization, customized clothing, plus size clothing, denim dresses, denim plus size dresses
 
Eshakti, dress customization, customized clothing, plus size clothing, denim dresses, denim plus size dresses
 
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Have you tried eShakti? Leave me a comment. I'd love to know your experience.
 
Until Next Time...

Did You Dare Watch 'The Strange Thing About the Johnsons'?

15 February 2017


Did you watch the Grammys Sunday night?  Well I'm not here to talk about that!  LOL My timeline was filled with so many posts about the Grammys but another thing that was jumpin' on my timeline was chatter about this short film called the Strange Thing about the Johnsons.  Strange Thing is the brainchild of White, gay, Jewish filmaker, Ari Aster.   Apparently the 29 minute film had begun making its rounds on the internet once again since its creation in 2011 and was the subject of a lot of status updates across Facebook and Instagram this past weekend.  So many means and so many posts led me to want to check it out for myself.  So, I gave it a try and I will say that just like so many others, about two minutes in I was disgusted and turned it off.  Then I started doing dishes and had a little time to think.  I went back to it and I'm actually glad I did.



So, basically the film is about the "what if" scenario of a boy molestating his father.  *record scratch*  Wait, whet??!  Yes, you read that right.  It isn't graphic but it does explore the question of how this situation could possibly play out.  It's controvertial, to the say the least and it sparks a lot of thought but I think that's what film artistry is supposed to do.  It also forced us to have a conversation about a very taboo subject that blacks don't really like to talk about.  And even though it's rather unbelievable that a son could be molesting his own father, molestation and incest DOES happen in the black community quite often but it still isn't really talked about.  It's often it is swept under the rug and regarded as the "family's dark secret" while the victims of it suffer in silence.  Even though the film is considered a satire or dark comedy,  it encouraged us to think and talk about these subjects.  It asks the question, how was it absolutely ridiculous for a son to be doing this to a father but when a father does this to his son (or any other molestation situation) we treated as hush-hush and act like it's a dirty secret that we can't address?  While watching this film I picked up on the tones of manipulation, the blame, false consent, denial and all of the other factors there are usually present in a situation where something like this occurs.  To see it in a reversed role made it all that more obvious and it made me feel silly to know that there are actual situations where this family structure/situation is normal.  I have worked in victim services and have met so many children who were the victims of physical/abuse.  I almost felt like I owed it to every victim that I've ever encountered to watch this satirical film.  Sometimes it takes a joke to show you just how funny things really aren't...   If they could live through it then I certainly could stomach a little dramatization of it.

I can't tell you whether or not to watch it but I'm actually glad I did- at the very least to see what all the fuss was about.  If you'd like to see it click the link below.

Leave me a comment and let's talk about it...




Until Next Time...

7 Things Every Woman Can Learn From the film Hidden Figures

08 February 2017

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If you haven't seen the film Hidden Figures, you must obviously be hidden under a rock!  The film tells the amazing story of three black women working for NASA during the 1960s who were instrumental in the United States race for space exploration.  While watching this movie, so many things stood about to me about womanhood and sisterhood.  Here are 7 things that any woman can take away from the film: 


1.  Have a tribe.

I won't trust any woman that says, "I don't have female friends, I have more male friends..."  As a woman you have to build your tribe. Not just a group of friends, but a group of women that are your support system that you can rely on for different things.  Not every friend is going to play the same role in your life.  I have some friends that keep secrets better than others, I have other friends that I can rely on to go out for a fun night, and I have friends that if I am feeling creative I can brainstorm with.  Building your tribe means gathering your group of friends that you can count on.



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2.  Know your worth.

Knowing your self-worth can be one of the hardest things to learn sometimes.  Life is a rat race and you have to fight hard to secure your spot.  Not only do you have to go after the things you want but you have to believe that you deserve them.  

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3.  Sometimes your allies will surprise you.

A hard lesson to learn is that some of the people who you thought had your back, may not be with you in the long run.  Surprisingly, some of the people that you never thought would support you can become your biggest supporters.  Sometimes those people don't always look like you and you can't expect those that do look like you stay in your corner.  Help can come from unexpected places...



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4.  Find the opportunities that spark your interest and go after them even if they seem impossible.

If you have something that seems impossible but it stirs your curiosity and strikes your interest anyway, go for it! I mean, who would have thought that there would be a Jamaican or Nigerian bobsled team?!  Don't let your location, race, financial situation, or anything stop you from achieving your dreams- no matter how crazy they seem.


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5.  Be grateful for what you're  given but always want more.

You should always be grateful for everything that you have but there is nothing wrong with wanting more.  Many times women are expected to not want more than the life they have.  It's OKAY to want more!  Never get comfortable or complacent. You should always strive to do more and be more.



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6.  Know your shit!

Even when you get to the top, you'd better earn it! You'll have to work even harder to stay there.  Your responsibilities will grow and people will expect more from you.  
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7.  Bring others with you.


Not everyone will understand your journey and it's perfectly okay to let people go if they don't share your path but it is your responsibility to open doors and bring others with you- even if it means just giving someone a glimpse of your journey.  I always like to remember that little girls who look just like me are watching and I have to show them what living a fulfilled life looks like.

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  What did you learn from the film?  Comment below!


Until Next Time...

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