How to Deal With Family Members Bringing Up Your Weight & Eating Habits at Holiday Gatherings

With the colder months comes all the wonderful family gatherings.  Warm fires in the fireplace as family and friends meet to enjoy each other’s company and everything is all warm, fuzzy & fabulous, right?!?  Yeah me either! I am of the firm belief that family gatherings are sent by the Gods to remind us of how wonderful adulthood (and the ability to run fast and far, far away) is.  I don’t know about you other plus size gals, but there are some times that being in a huge, boisterous family can be a bit of a curse.  Especially if said family isn’t the most, circumspect, shall we say, with their (hopefully) well-meant yet awful comments on one’s appearance. I think that there is no worse time of the year to be self-conscious about your size.  Of course, some of us are capable of telling a family member to mind their own business with no problem but not everyone has that kind of gall.  So here are a few simple tips for those of us who just want to make it through the holidays and just hold onto our sanity.

How to Deal With Family Members Bringing Up Your Weight & Eating Habits at Holiday Gatherings

In the light of the fact that a lot of people really subscribe to the “looks are everything” theory, one of the best ways to be forearmed is to make sure you are practicing excellent self-care.  I am not just talking about the journaling, long baths and candles kind of self-care, either. I am talking about the more physical self-care- getting “all dolled up”.  Clothing, jewelry, make up and great hair are all things that as a plus size woman, I use as pieces of my defense. When I am well dressed and have taken the time to really take care of myself, I feel strong and much more on point. A killer bracelet, having your nails done, and other little things make me feel put together and therefore much more confident.  As a plus size girl, I find that there are so many times that a really good outfit makes me feel so strong and self-confident. When planning for one of the multitude of family events that come with the holiday season, I make sure to plan my clothes a few days before. If I am happy with what I am wearing, then it is much easier to deflect great aunt Gertie when she is obnoxiously inquiring about how your “diet” is going- mind you, you aren’t on a diet because you are happy with yourself.  Another good idea is to take the time to get a killer haircut/’do before the events.  As a larger woman, taking care of things like gorgeous hair with a fresh cut and color works wonders for my self-esteem-   Aunt Gertie be darned, I know I am awesome. Having my nails done, and taking the time to have my make-up set all help build on an extra layer of mental armor.

How to Deal With Family Members Bringing Up Your Weight & Eating Habits at Holiday Gatherings

I know that there is going to be random people who make comments- these things happen on every Thanksgiving all around the United States. Watching social media, I see so many beautiful plus size woman come into their private groups, the closed spaces where no one can see and they vent, cry and lament over the harsh words of “family and friends”.  Now while I wish I could just go up to all these bullies- yes Aunt Gertie, I am pointing my finger at you here, and smack the stupid out of them… I know that doing so isn’t possible so I’m making sure that my all plus size and curvy sisters know that they are beautiful and worthy of having a wonderful time without having to sideline Ol’ Gertie and her “advice”.

Sooner or later, it will get easier to put people in their place. You’ll find that it’s necessary at times.  It’s perfectly ok to set boundaries but I know that with family it can be really hard.  Let them know that uninvited comments about your weigh and eating habits are not okay.  You don’t have to be mean but you deserve the right to be comfortable and making comments about the size of your body or the amount of food on your plate are unacceptable.


How do you deal with unwanted comments from family around the holidays?





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If you’ve kept up with my social media, you probably noticed that I did a Facebook live on #ThePMSPackage.   The amazing folks at The PMS package sent me out my very own box to review!   I had so much fun showing you guys what was inside and I wanted to talk a little bit on the blog and share my thoughts regarding the products inside and the box overall. Here's a little bit about company.



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Overall I really loved this little box!  I'm addicted to subscription boxes.  I think I have subscribed to at least a dozen of them and it looks like I found a new one!  The packaging is so cute and pretty.  I love the pink box and the beautiful pink tissue paper that everything is wrapped up in.  This box was loaded down with lots of goodies for that certain time of the month.  It was definitely a holistic approach to care during the menstrual cycle.  It was filled with snack goodies, cute stationery items, aromatherapy things and so much more.  If you'd like to see the live video and you can click here or click the first photo above.  I definitely enjoyed going through this box and gobbling up all of these goodies- even though my mom completely robbed me of all the snacks in the Box. I had to sneak them back from her in order to enjoy them for myself.   Looks like she's a fan too!   LOL

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This month’s box included:  a small box of Kotex, 5 chocolatey snacks, packets of Midol, a 12 hour heating pad, feminine wipes, apple scented body butter, a scented candle, a diamond top pen, and a journal.

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Tons of stuff, right?!?  My only suggestion would be that it would be great to have some alternative snacks for those that aren’t so into chocolate.  I know that chocolate is the general go to comfort snack during PMS but not everyone is a fan.  Lucky for me, I LOVE chocolate.  My favorite chocolatey snack from the box was the Cheryl’s chocolate chunk cookies.  Imagine Chips Ahoy but like a thousand times better!  The journal was also one of my favorite things as well.

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The box is extremely affordable and the FREE shipping is definitely a plus!   Boxes start at just $29.99 a month.   You can save even more if you sign up for multiple months.  You can even set your own personal delivery date so that you package arrives right when you need it! If you're interested in a PMS package for yourself, the folks at PMS package have offered my readers a discount code for $5 off your first box!  Head to:  http://www.thepmspackage.com/influencer and
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Have you tried the PMS package? If so what are your thoughts?
Are you addicted to subscription boxes like me? Let me know which ones you love!




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The Low Country Socialite, Kirsten Jackson, eshakti

Almost 15 or so years ago, I shared with someone really close to me that I might be interested in becoming a plus-size model.  It was something that I heard from everyone, like everywhere that I went that.   People often said that I wear clothes really well and they questioned if I were ever interested in doing doing plus size modeling.  I knew nothing about the industry- where or how to get started but I figured that if more than one person was saying it then there had to be something to it.


The Low Country Socialite, Kirsten Jackson, eshakti

I wear around a size 26 now but then I was probably around a size 20.   The person that I shared this with, their reply was, “you're definitely pretty enough but you're way TOO PLUS.”  I know right?  That killed my spirit something major and instead of deciding for myself, I took this person's advice to heart and never pursued this path. That was the absolute worst advice I've ever taken from someone. My confidence was already very fragile back then and it was really easy to crush me.  Who knows what could have become of that. 


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Would I like to be a plus size model right now?  Knowing more about the industry through blogging and other things, probably not. I've somewhat found the place that I like being in within the plus size fashion industry. But now I'll never really know. I'll never know if I initially wanted to be a plus size model because people kept recommending it and I'll also never know if I didn't do it because someone discouraged me.



The moral of this story is that you have gather your own dreams, decide things for yourself and sometimes you even have to keep it to yourself. There's nothing wrong with making your moves in silence. Your wildest and even dizziest fantasies can come true with persistence. I'm the type of person that has usually needed some type of validation before I pursue anything.  It's something that I'm working on but sometimes I fall right back into those old insecurities. What can I say, I'm a work in progress… LOL I'm learning to go confidently in the direction of my dreams without permission from anyone else. 


Photography:  Ng Photography
Dress:  eShakti Graphic Floral Print Crepe Bow-Tie Dress
Shoes:  Rainbow Shops
Earrings:  Vintage
Lippie:  Coloured Raine


What about you? Have you ever been discouraged from pursuing a dream or idea?
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