19 November 2017

How to Deal With Family Members Bringing Up Your Weight & Eating Habits at Holiday Gatherings

How to Deal With Family Members Bringing Up Your Weight & Eating Habits at Holiday Gatherings

With the colder months comes all the wonderful family gatherings.  Warm fires in the fireplace as family and friends meet to enjoy each other’s company and everything is all warm, fuzzy & fabulous, right?!?  Yeah me either! I am of the firm belief that family gatherings are sent by the Gods to remind us of how wonderful adulthood (and the ability to run fast and far, far away) is.  I don’t know about you other plus size gals, but there are some times that being in a huge, boisterous family can be a bit of a curse.  Especially if said family isn’t the most, circumspect, shall we say, with their (hopefully) well-meant yet awful comments on one’s appearance. I think that there is no worse time of the year to be self-conscious about your size.  Of course, some of us are capable of telling a family member to mind their own business with no problem but not everyone has that kind of gall.  So here are a few simple tips for those of us who just want to make it through the holidays and just hold onto our sanity.

How to Deal With Family Members Bringing Up Your Weight & Eating Habits at Holiday Gatherings

In the light of the fact that a lot of people really subscribe to the “looks are everything” theory, one of the best ways to be forearmed is to make sure you are practicing excellent self-care.  I am not just talking about the journaling, long baths and candles kind of self-care, either. I am talking about the more physical self-care- getting “all dolled up”.  Clothing, jewelry, make up and great hair are all things that as a plus size woman, I use as pieces of my defense. When I am well dressed and have taken the time to really take care of myself, I feel strong and much more on point. A killer bracelet, having your nails done, and other little things make me feel put together and therefore much more confident.  As a plus size girl, I find that there are so many times that a really good outfit makes me feel so strong and self-confident. When planning for one of the multitude of family events that come with the holiday season, I make sure to plan my clothes a few days before. If I am happy with what I am wearing, then it is much easier to deflect great aunt Gertie when she is obnoxiously inquiring about how your “diet” is going- mind you, you aren’t on a diet because you are happy with yourself.  Another good idea is to take the time to get a killer haircut/’do before the events.  As a larger woman, taking care of things like gorgeous hair with a fresh cut and color works wonders for my self-esteem-   Aunt Gertie be darned, I know I am awesome. Having my nails done, and taking the time to have my make-up set all help build on an extra layer of mental armor.

How to Deal With Family Members Bringing Up Your Weight & Eating Habits at Holiday Gatherings

I know that there is going to be random people who make comments- these things happen on every Thanksgiving all around the United States. Watching social media, I see so many beautiful plus size woman come into their private groups, the closed spaces where no one can see and they vent, cry and lament over the harsh words of “family and friends”.  Now while I wish I could just go up to all these bullies- yes Aunt Gertie, I am pointing my finger at you here, and smack the stupid out of them… I know that doing so isn’t possible so I’m making sure that my all plus size and curvy sisters know that they are beautiful and worthy of having a wonderful time without having to sideline Ol’ Gertie and her “advice”.

Sooner or later, it will get easier to put people in their place. You’ll find that it’s necessary at times.  It’s perfectly ok to set boundaries but I know that with family it can be really hard.  Let them know that uninvited comments about your weigh and eating habits are not okay.  You don’t have to be mean but you deserve the right to be comfortable and making comments about the size of your body or the amount of food on your plate are unacceptable.


How do you deal with unwanted comments from family around the holidays?





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  1. I guess I must have the eye of death because no one mutters a word to me about anything LOL! I think it's the height of gall to comment on a person's weight or eating. It's absolutely none of your business. Mind your own plate.

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