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I’d like to get away from the idea that as a black woman and a plus size woman, I represent all black women and plus size women.  I see tons of videos of black women and/or plus size woman twerking or cursing or any other perceived “naughty” behavior on social media.  The comment sections are littered with those that feel that these women are a poor reflection of what Black or plus size women should be.  Why?  For one, what someone does for a few minutes on social media is a pretty poor reflection of who they actually are and also, the whole “ladylike” is just completely overrated but that’s a whole other topic to explore. 


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I use the hashtag #RepresentationMatters because I do think that representation is important but I also think that “what” I represent is a lot different than “who” I represent.  I am a black, plus size woman and I am very proud to be those things but I am soooooo much more.  I represent what I am at different times of the day, at different times of the year, in different moods and in different relationships.  Sometimes I’m a workaholic and sometimes I’m lazy.  Sometimes I’m super sweet and sometimes I’m super shady.  Sometimes I like doing hoodrat things with my friends and sometimes I like being exceptionally empowering to other women. 


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I can’t shoulder the burden of the “who” I represent.  It’s too much and no one should feel like they HAVE to do it.  I can’t represent all black and/or plus size women.  We are entirely too diverse to be put into a box like that.  So, I want to give a blessing to anyone who feels that they are obligated to represent something bigger especially when it is representation that they DIDN’T sign up for.  It’s a lot of pressure just to walk through the world and so many people feel this pressure in its extreme form whether others acknowledge it or not.  Not just Blacks or plus size people- but women, minorities, LGBTQ, etc.  Existing is hard enough without feeling that you have to represent everyone that looks like you whenever you do something in public.  Allow yourself the freedom to be a multifaceted individual.  Chill, you're not making (insert Blacks, Big Girls, Gays, etc.) look bad, friend.


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The Low Country Socialite


The Low Country Socialite

Jacket & Pants: Belk

Earrings:  Kitsch

Shoes:  Payless ShoeSource

Lippie:  Bacca by Stila Cosmetics



What about you?  Are there things that you are tired of representing?


I DON'T REPRESENT YOU AND THAT'S OKAY


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Keesha of Runway With Kay & Marie Denee of The Curvy Fashionista


I've been blogging for several years now and consistency has always been one of the hardest stumbling blocks to get over.   Some months I'll blog pretty regularly and then I may stop for several weeks.   It's something that I've always hated about this journey but couldn't seem to shake.  Recently I've decided to take a new approach when it comes to my blog and try to see the task in a different light while also changing the focus of my blog.  Inspired by my favorite podcast, I'm beginning to treat my blog as a sacred practice.  Meaning that I will treat it as something that if I do it regularly, I can expect it to yield fruit and bear gifts.  Not so much physical gifts (while all of the swag is sometimes nice lol) but the gifts of growing my audience and truly helping people through empathy, understanding and compassion.  I truly believe that when you "get closer to the things that you love, things begin to break open."  The path becomes clearer and good things begin to spring forth.  I want my posts to get closer to you so we can break open some things, ya dig?  Part of sacred practice is doing things when it isn't easy or isn't fun or isn't delivering immediate rewards.  Yes, blogging can be fun and rewarding.  But it is work.  Late nights, early mornings, travel, writer's block, expenses, etc.  It's the side that people don't often share.  But just as a runner would approach training for a marathon or a student who is aiming for a degree, you have to do the work even when it gets hard and even when you don't feel like it.  That is how you treat a practice as sacred and that is how you reap it’s rewards.  I've had a ton of days where I just didn't feel like it. 


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Another one of my FAVORITE parts of treating something as sacred is the building of a community around it.  I love interacting with my readers and followers on social media but I especially love connecting with other bloggers.  This week I'll be attending TCFSTYLEEXPO for the 3rd time.  I'm so thankful to Marie, The Curvy Fashionista for the opportunity to fellowship with other bloggers and connect with them on a physical level.  I've met a ton of influencers that I've followed for years and even have a few that I am very close to.  This conference has become our holy place that we travel to year after year and leave refreshed and ready to dive right back into creating the content that speaks to our respective tribes.  It's a beautiful sisterhood and I can't wait to show you guys my experience on social media this weekend.  So, stay tuned to my travels on social media this weekend.  As always, it’s sure to be a blast!



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Nekeyeta of byKikiSol


Ashley of Fab Ellis


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Faith of Faithfully Yours & Ashley of Simply Curvee


Lisa of Unapologetically Lisa


Amber of Style Plus Curves


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Georgette of Grown and Curvy Woman


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Keesha of Runway with Kay


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Ericka of ShapelyLouise


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LaShai of Keeping It Curvy


Alysse of Ready to Stare



What about you?  What practice are you treating as sacred now?  It can be anything- a commitment to eating healthy, spending more time with family, saving money, etc.  Tell me what you're up to and how you're doing it!  Are you going to TCFStyleExpo this year?


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After my father was killed, I was forced to go through an involuntary transformation.  One thing happened that made my life come to a screeching halt and flip- no summersault, all at once.  I mean, the world went all topsy-turvy… All of a sudden, I’m a victim of gun violence. All of a sudden, I had two parents and now I’ve only got one parent.  It’s like someone snatched away my old eyes away and I was forced to look at the world with new eyes that I was not used to… eyes that didn’t fit and that I didn’t understand.  It wasn’t fair.  Aside from the obvious grief, it’s funny how the little things were the hardest to cope with. Like realizing that for all of the remaining special events in my life, my father won’t be there.  Or how movies and rap songs that talk about guns & killing suddenly weren’t so entertaining anymore…


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Have you ever had to go through an involuntary transformation?  Maybe the death of a close loved one or being diagnosed with an illness or going through a divorce.  How did you handle it?  I want to offer a blessing to anyone who has ever had to go through a forced transformation after their world was turned completely upside down by something devastating.  ALL of your feelings are valid as you relearn how to navigate your life. Remember that while everything feels like it’s been flipped upside down, there is comfort in identifying some things that are still true and still stable for now.  For me, it is true that I still have one parent left who loves me a lot. It is true that I still have the opportunity to make my dad proud of me even though he isn’t here anymore.  Most importantly, it is true that my Dad would want me and my mom to be happy.


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Dress: Eloquii

Clutch:  Paula Vera at TJMAXX

Earrings:  Kitsch

Shoes:  Steve Madden

Lippie:  Cherry Blossom by Coloured Raine

Photography:  ShellyCStudio


What about you?  What are some of your truths that you’ve had to realize after an involuntary transformation?


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Savannah Potter prom

I'm so excited to tell you guys about my magical weekend! I attended Savannah's 1st ever Potter prom! It was so much fun! Markstercon, the production company responsible for all of your favorite geeky events, really came through with an awesome party and Savannah's finest geeks showed up decked out in their finest wizarding attire. It was just like being at a Hogwarts prom!  Anyone who knows me knows that I am a HUGE #PotterHead. I read all of the books at least twice, seen the movies about a million times and listened to a million podcasts. I think it's safe to say that I'm a major fan of the Harry Potter series. 


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Harry Potter Prom in Savana, Georgia




The event was held at Savannah Station which is one of my favorite venues in Savannah. I've gone to some great parties there and this one was no different. So many tasty treats that were all themed after with the Harry Potter wizarding world, live music and tons of amazing costumes! There was even butterbeer at the bar, along with a few other delicious drinks that were Harry Potter themed as well.  The next day there was even a Harry Potter Pub Crawl but unfortunately, I had to work so I couldn't go. Boooooo! Lol Savannah is KNOWN for its themed pub crawls so I know I missed an amazing time! 😫
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Markstercon productions

Savannah Potter prom


Markstercon productions


Here's what I wore to the prom. I got this dress from Eloquii and the headpiece from Amazon. 

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Savannah Potter prom

Harry Potter Prom & Plus Size Cosplay

It can be kind of difficult to cosplay when you're plus size, so you have to be creative and think outside of the box. I chose to channel Queenie Goldstein from the Fantastic Beasts series. So technically not Harry Potter but still part of the franchise. That movie is set in the 20s so all I really had to do was dress like the roaring 20s and snag Queenie's wand from Amazon too!


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Hope you enjoy the pics! 

Are you a #potterhead? Who's your favorite character?




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