The holidays are always pretty tough on our small family.  Over time we've experienced a lot of death and loss during the last quarter of the year so the season is always met with bittersweet feelings.  This is one of the reasons why I HATE the color red for Christmas.  To me, it's the very definition of Christmas on STEROIDS!  It's a lot and I usually avoid it especially when I decorate or wrap gifts.  I usually opt for jewel greens and icy blues but this year I want to get into the practice of calling good vibes to me- starting with this holiday season.  So, I created a holiday-red mood board for December to round out the year with shimmery, yuletide cheer and to inspire an amazing holiday season!

December 2018 Mood Board:  Holiday Red

December 2018 Mood Board:  Holiday Red, The Low Country Socialite, Savannah Blogger

December 2018 Mood Board:  Holiday Red, The Low Country Socialite, Savannah Blogger

Red Psychology:  Passion, Confidence, strength, energy, stimulation, excitement, powerful, action, motivation, strong-will

What colors are you feeling this holiday season?

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December 2018 Mood Board:  Holiday Red, The Low Country Socialite, Savannah Blogger

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If you have a hoarder mentality, it's probably more harmful to you than you realize. It could even be having a negative impact on your finances. Here's why:

Hoarding Makes Other Aspects of Your Life Disorganized

If you hoard to the point where it is difficult to find things that you need, you will find that many areas of your life are seriously disrupted. For instance, it can impact your work life if you find yourself unable to find items that are necessary for work, and severe hoarding can even make it impossible to function. Even if your home is only mildly cluttered, you might be more disorganized than if you lived in an environment that tends to be clean. That's because psychologists believe that a clean space lends itself to a more organized state of mind, and this can improve productivity. Related:

Other People Will See Your Home Differently

The reason for this is that you have become accustomed to seeing the clutter, but other people haven't. In some cases, people with a hoarding mentality have been shocked to find that other people thought their home was extremely messy, but they thought it seemed only "slightly cluttered" until they realized how other people saw their environment.

Your Stuff Probably Won't Appreciate

While some items will retain their value fairly well or even increase in value, it's unlikely that anything around the house will ever become a valuable antique. If you are unsure whether your items will gain value over time or not, you should consult an expert on antiques. However, there are ways that you can get an idea if one of your items has significant value:
  • Determine if the item is rare, and keep in mind that rare items are much more likely to gain substantial value over time.
  • If an item contains precious metals or any other material of significant value, it may be more likely to retain its value over time than other items.
  • Items that are handmade are more likely to retain their value over time.
  • If an item is in exceptionally good condition, it is likely to be valuable.


Your Items Could Be More Than Useless

In some cases, the maintenance of these items could be costing you much more than they could ever be worth, and not selling them prevents you from profiting from any value that they do have. For example, if you have a junked car, you might find yourself regularly needing to set mouse traps to prevent (or combat) an infestation, and the cost of doing this could add up to more than the value of the junked vehicle over time. If you want to sell junked cars online or otherwise get rid of clutter, these are some ways that you can redeem any value that these items have:

  • eBay: You can use eBay to sell vehicles and various items that are worth a substantial amount of money.
  • LetGo: LetGo is a great app to get rid of small amounts of junk. The app will connect you to people in your area who you can sell the belongings to.
  • Amazon: If you have items other than vehicles, Amazon can be a great place to sell them.
  • Bonanza: Bonanza is similar to eBay in many ways, but there are some key differences. Unlike eBay, it's very easy to use the site without a PayPal account.
  • Mercari: Mercari is similar to other e-commerce sites, and it also is available as an app. It's possible to list an item in a mere few minutes with this app, and you do not need to meet anyone in person.
  • Craigslist: Not only can you get rid of your stuff quickly on Craigslist, but you'll be meeting with people who are located in your area to sell them.


Your Stuff Could Be Taking Up a Lot of Space

In extreme cases, hoarding can make it difficult to get around your house. Even if your house doesn't look that bad right now, remember that it always starts somewhere. If you wait too long and end up needing to hire someone to help you get rid of the clutter, it will create a significant expense.

Wrapping Up

Not only can a hoarder mentality be disruptive to your life, but it could even be impacting your finances. Luckily, getting rid of stuff is quite easy, and you do not have to have a garage sale to do it. This is one way you might learn to be more healthy and conscious in how you live. 

I was given a Big Fig bed set in exchange for my review of the product.  I may receive a portion of the sale through the affiliate program.  I was not paid for my review and all opinions are 100% my own.

How I Finally Got My Dream Bed With Big Fig Mattresses

I have never really been much into home d├ęcor.  As long as I've got a kitchen to make grilled cheese in, a big closet for all of my clothes and a sweet bed- I'm good.  For most of my adult years, I've had to accept having only two out of those three things.  Having a nice, sturdy and comfortable bed was something that I have never really enjoyed.  I'd dress up my beds with bright and beautiful spreads or fluffy duvets so it would be very visually appealing but the comfort was never really there, at least not for the long haul.  Most of time it would be comfortable for a little while and then in about a year or probably even less, that comfort was gone. 
I'm a heavy girl that has been that way all of her life.  That mixed with the fact that I sleep alone and I generally sleep in one spot have been the reasons why mattresses do not last for me.  They collect sweat, sag, lose their shape and eventually have to be tossed and replaced for a new one.  Usually the only solution to the problem is to flip the mattress but I can only use that solution once, of course.  No matter how many fragrant candles that I purchased or fresh flowers that I placed in my room- my sleeping situation was never 100% comfortable.

How I Finally Got My Dream Bed With Big Fig Mattresses

Enter Big Fig Mattresses:

When Big Fig contacted me and invited me into their affiliate program, I was OVER THE MOON!  I had met their reps several times over the past couple of years at different conferences and had read countless reviews from fellow influencers.  I was excited to learn about a company that addressed a real issue for larger figure individuals.  After getting my email and signing up for the delivery, I anxiously awaited my new bed!  The shipping was quick- I actually prolonged the process because I wanted it to come after I came back from a trip.  But, in less than 2 weeks, I was sleeping in my new, cozy bed. The company offers White Glove delivery, meaning they take care of EVERYTHING.  They ship it, bring it in, set it up, and haul off your old bed if you'd like.

Big Fig Review, The Low Country Socialite

Let's talk about the feel...

As I mentioned above, I've read a ton of reviews and everyone is RIGHT!  It truly is a comfortable bed!  It has cooling and breathable technology so no more sweaty nights.  Even with my fan on, my old bed made me sweat.  I also wake up feeling more refreshed than I did with my old mattress.  I spend a LOT of time on my bed.  It's something that I'd rather not admit but it's true.  I currently work from home, so I write in bed, read in bed, binge watch Netflix in bed, etc.  This mattress hasn't not shown any signs of sag.  I waited as long as I could to write this review because I wanted to give it a fair amount of time.  I feels so good to lay on a mattress that is so soft and comfy but still feels strong an durable.  I think my favorite thing about the mattress is that it has supportive edges.  If you sit on the edge of the bed a lot, as a heavy person, eventually it will sag and look weird over time.  You also seep down into the edge on a traditional mattress but not on a Big Fig.  It retains its shape even at the edges. 

Big Fig Review, The Low Country Socialite, beds for plus size people

Big Fig Review, The Low Country Socialite, beds for plus size people

Pros & Cons...

Here are some of the pros: 
Cooling Technology – thermo-gel that offers a cooling sensation to the touch.
Strong Mattress, Strong box spring, and Strong frame- it's a complete system, not just the mattress.

No Sag - high density foam supports up to 1000 pounds!
101 Night Trial - try it in your home and feel the difference for yourself.
20 Year Warranty - lasts a hell of a lot longer than traditional mattresses even when they're used by smaller users.

And the cons...
Only available online:  for not it's only available for purchase online so there isn't really a showroom that you can go into to try it out.  However, Big Fig is a sponsor at TONS of events, so trying it out before you purchase is a fairly easy task.  It’s also pretty cool that they are a strong supporter of the plus size community!
Not cheap:  it's an investment but what quality piece of furniture isn't?  The good thing is that Big Fig has finance options, frequent sales and a 101 Night Trial.

Big Fig Review, The Low Country Socialite, beds for plus size people

Big Fig Review, The Low Country Socialite, beds for plus size people

In all, I really do love this bed.  Now, my biggest problem is keeping Lola (my pup) off of it.  She seriously enjoys it almost as much as I do.  lol   I'm so glad that manufacturers are creating products that are more inclusive for customers.  I want to offer a special blessing to those that realize that we do not live in a "one size fits all" world and makes products to reflect that truth.


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Although it has a reputation for being a miracle worker on facial wrinkles, the power of Botox
is not merely limited to cosmetic enhancing procedures. In addition to its magical properties
in making a person look more youthful, this powerful injectable can do so much more than
just relax wrinkles. Here are four ways that Botox can be used for more than beauty…

4 Ways Botox is for More Than Just Beauty - Pexels

Reduce Excessive Sweating
Similar to how Botox can be used to help manage migraines, the injectable can also be
used to relax the muscles that contribute to excessive sweating. By preventing the message
that signals the body to sweat,
Botox can reduce both perspiration and excessive wetness
in a number of susceptible areas on the body. The most common place to use Botox for this
purpose is in the armpits.

Treatment of Migraines

Through research and trial and error, Botox has been found to help manage migraines. Many
health professionals believe that
Botox works in the treatment of debilitating migraines by
blocking the pain signals sent to the brain while inhibiting sensory pathways. The muscles
in the head are then subsequently more relaxed and not as likely to feel the immense pain
that comes along with migraines. In addition to helping migraine sufferers, some doctors
believe that Botox can also be an effective way to treat painful cluster headaches.

Manage Acne

Because Botox treatments can lead to the suppression of oil production, breakouts can be
reduced through its consistent usage. The most effective location on the face to use
as a means of managing acne is on the forehead. By injecting too much at one time, you will
run the risk of frozen muscles.

Eliminate Eye Twitching

One of the first uses of Botox was for the treatment of uncomfortable eye twitches. By
injecting the toxin into the hyperactive muscles around the eye, twitching can be reduced
or even eliminated in some cases. The effects of
Botox as a treatment for eye twitching
usually lasts approximately three to six months. So while this is not a permanent solution,
it can still provide immense relief to those suffering from this condition when used regularly.

Although it is likely that Botox's primary use will always be to help with the appearance of fine
lines and wrinkles, its numerous additional uses are becoming more widely used, assisting
sufferers to control a variety of ailments.

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The world is full of amazing places to see. Each continent has something unique and exciting to offer. Some travelers are always on the search for the next-best-thing and something inexplicably special.
To help satiate these cravings, here are five mind-blowing travel destinations that excite the curiosity...

5 Mind-Blowing Travel Destinations That Awaken Your Natural Curiosity

Petra, Jordan

There is nothing quite as stunning as the ancient city of Petra that is built into the side of massive cliffs.
Visitors are ushered through narrow caverns with walls reaching towards the sky, before coming to an
opening with the main site of Petra and countless other delicately created and long-standing
Imaginative Traveller notes that there are numerous tombs, temples, public buildings,
and an impressive rock-hewn amphitheater as well as the Monastery, a vast structure rivaling even
the Treasury. This ancient city dates back to 300 B.C. and has been featured in several books and
films including Indiana Jones and the Last Crusade.

Salar de Uyuni, Bolivia

The Salar de Uyuni salt flats are one of the most stunning places in South America. This desert of
salt plays with human perception allowing for some defying illusions. During the dry season, it is
difficult to maintain depth perception as those far away only seem like microscopic people standing
nearby. The illusions don't stop during the wet season as the sky is perfectly reflected in a natural
mirror that extends all the way to the horizon. These salt flats are a must see.

Baltimore, USA

Many people don't consider the United States a historical place as many other countries have a
significantly longer history. However, there are still remnants of the US's past that make for a mind-
blowing travel destination.
Avis suggests that visitors enjoy the beautiful architecture of the city at
historic sites such as the Baltimore Basilica, the first basilica in America, and the Lloyd Street
Synagogue, the oldest synagogue in the country. Drive down the brick-paved streets to reach famous
breweries, the Walters Art Museum, or the dozens of historic war sites, such as Fort McHenry, within
an hour’s drive of the city.

5 Mind-Blowing Travel Destinations That Awaken Your Natural Curiosity

The Pyramids, Egypt

No list of mind-blowing travel destinations is complete without including the stunning pyramids of
Egypt. These colossal structures date back centuries and archaeologists are still not sure how they
were constructed by humans. In fact, they are an impressive feat by even today's standards.
Interesting Engineering says that the Pyramid of Giza was built 4500 years ago in Egypt, yet it
remained as the tallest man-made building until the 19th century. That means it stood its place as the
tallest building for 3800 years!

Dubai, U.A.E.

Imagine a walking through a barren desert with sand as far as the eye can see, and then stumbling
upon a metropolitan oasis the size of New York. This accurately describes the stunning city of Dubai
in the United Arab Emirates. Dubai was built in the middle of the desert and acts as an oasis of air-
conditioning, massive skyscrapers and other feats of engineering. In fact, the tallest building in the
world and some of the most popular man-made islands are located here.

Mind-blowing places are present around the entire world and located in every continent. These five
travel destinations are a great place to start when wanting to excite that curiosity.

If you like this article, you should check out my travel blogs from my visit to the Dominican

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Over the years I have lost or better yet- given away so much because of insecurities, fear, acceptance issues and negative thoughts.   I lost things like my time, my self-love, my power and most importantly- my peace.  There were times that I took on extra tasks that I knew I didn’t want to do.  I also did things like falling in love with the wrong men out of fear of being alone.  I hated my body because I felt like it could never be accepted or worthy of genuine love.  It affected the way that I thought and spoke so much that it almost completely destroyed my confidence.  My brain was constantly flooded with negative thoughts like “what will everyone think of me if I don’t agree to this?” or “what will they think if I have a little more to eat?” or “what will they think of me if I cannot afford to pay for this?”   I let insecurities seep in and the result was that I ended up giving my power more times than I care to admit.  


Kirsten, The Low Country Socialite is standing on the steps in front of The Cathedral of St. John the Baptist in Savannah Georgia.  She is wearing a black floral sleeveless dress and looking straight ahead.  Behind her is the massive door to the cathedral.

At this point in my life, I am working hard on reclaiming my inner peace.    So, what does it mean to “reclaim” something?  As a verb, it means to recover something that has previously been lost/given away.   It also, in its noun form, means the very action or the process of taking back what is lost.  Here are some of my action steps for reclaiming peace in my home and in my life:

1.  Focus on what you can control.

I can't control what someone thinks about me or what someone says about me.  I’m not responsible for the negative thoughts and actions of someone else.  The only thing that I can control is the way that I react to things and the way that I feel about myself.  At the end of the day, those things are the important.  Those are the things that will stay with me to either comfort or torment me.

2.  Always show gratitude.

Always find a way to say “thank you”- even for the little things.  We usually remember to say “thank you” for the big things but whether you realize it or not, there are tons of people or forces in your life that are doing little things for you that sometimes go unnoticed.  Show gratitude to the people around you, your spiritual guide and even to yourself.  Even the simple act saying thank you to your body for its abilities is powerful.

Kirsten, The Low Country Socialite is standing on the steps in front of The Cathedral of St. John the Baptist in Savannah Georgia.  She is wearing a black floral sleeveless dress and looking to her left.  Her dress is floor length and from eShakti.

3.  Stay in the present as much as you can.

Living in the past causes stress for no reason. Everyone has regrets but constantly looking back and wanting to change the past will only stop you from moving forward.  I had to learn to stop beating myself up for my past mistakes and focus on learning the lesson that they held for me.  I believe that all things happen for a reason.  I may not understand it at the moment, but in time I will know what it is trying to teach me.

4.  Keep your word.

If you tell someone that you’re going to do something, do it.  If you someone asks you to do something and you can't do it or don't really want to do it, don't promise it.  This might sound like it only helps those around you but you’d be surprised at the burden this lifts off your shoulders.   It’s the simple art of saying “no”.  I didn’t realize that I had a problem with this until I was loaded with several tasks at my old job and was unsuccessfully struggling to stay afloat.  Deciding between what I wanted to do and what I felt obligated to do was something that I had to learn to do.

Kirsten, The Low Country Socialite and Shelly Carpenter of ShellyCLately and ShellyCStudio are standing on the steps in front of The Cathedral of St. John the Baptist in Savannah Georgia.  Kirsten is wearing a black floral sleeveless dress and looking to her right and is smiling while holding a fan made from African print fabric.  Shelly is standing on the left at the top step and her legs are crossed.  She is smiling and wearing a black knee-length skirt and a plaid shirt.

5.  Be kind- to yourself and everyone else.

First, give yourself a break.  You’re only human!  You’re built to make mistakes and so are the people around you.  Forgive as you would want to be forgiven.  Operate in kindness with your words, your actions and your thoughts.  

6.  Worry less. 

This one is probably the hardest to do and requires several action steps within itself but if you can manage it, you will save yourself to much unnecessary stress.  The best way to do this is to determine what is most important in life.  Don’t get wrapped up chasing material things like wealth.  Instead, chase the things that make you the most content and happy.

I’d love to give a special blessing to anyone who is in the process of reclaiming their peace or anything else that they’ve lost.  It’s not easy but it’s necessary for your survival.  I see you, I acknowledge you and I also pray that you get back all of those things that you lost or gave away in your life journey.

“No one saves us but ourselves. No one can and no one may. We ourselves must walk the path.” — Buddha

Kirsten, The Low Country Socialite is standing in front of The Cathedral of St. John the Baptist in Savannah Georgia.  She is wearing a black floral sleeveless dress and looking over her right shoulder with her lips parted.

Dress – eShakti

African Fan – Doors to Africa

Photography – ShellyCStudio

Location – Cathedral of St. John the Baptist, Savannah GA


What have you lost and what are your action steps for reclaiming it?  Let me know in the comments below.

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