01 November 2018

Six Ways to Reclaim Your Inner Peace

Over the years I have lost or better yet- given away so much because of insecurities, fear, acceptance issues and negative thoughts.   I lost things like my time, my self-love, my power and most importantly- my peace.  There were times that I took on extra tasks that I knew I didn’t want to do.  I also did things like falling in love with the wrong men out of fear of being alone.  I hated my body because I felt like it could never be accepted or worthy of genuine love.  It affected the way that I thought and spoke so much that it almost completely destroyed my confidence.  My brain was constantly flooded with negative thoughts like “what will everyone think of me if I don’t agree to this?” or “what will they think if I have a little more to eat?” or “what will they think of me if I cannot afford to pay for this?”   I let insecurities seep in and the result was that I ended up giving my power more times than I care to admit.  

 

Kirsten, The Low Country Socialite is standing on the steps in front of The Cathedral of St. John the Baptist in Savannah Georgia.  She is wearing a black floral sleeveless dress and looking straight ahead.  Behind her is the massive door to the cathedral.


At this point in my life, I am working hard on reclaiming my inner peace.    So, what does it mean to “reclaim” something?  As a verb, it means to recover something that has previously been lost/given away.   It also, in its noun form, means the very action or the process of taking back what is lost.  Here are some of my action steps for reclaiming peace in my home and in my life:


1.  Focus on what you can control.

I can't control what someone thinks about me or what someone says about me.  I’m not responsible for the negative thoughts and actions of someone else.  The only thing that I can control is the way that I react to things and the way that I feel about myself.  At the end of the day, those things are the important.  Those are the things that will stay with me to either comfort or torment me.


2.  Always show gratitude.

Always find a way to say “thank you”- even for the little things.  We usually remember to say “thank you” for the big things but whether you realize it or not, there are tons of people or forces in your life that are doing little things for you that sometimes go unnoticed.  Show gratitude to the people around you, your spiritual guide and even to yourself.  Even the simple act saying thank you to your body for its abilities is powerful.


Kirsten, The Low Country Socialite is standing on the steps in front of The Cathedral of St. John the Baptist in Savannah Georgia.  She is wearing a black floral sleeveless dress and looking to her left.  Her dress is floor length and from eShakti.


3.  Stay in the present as much as you can.

Living in the past causes stress for no reason. Everyone has regrets but constantly looking back and wanting to change the past will only stop you from moving forward.  I had to learn to stop beating myself up for my past mistakes and focus on learning the lesson that they held for me.  I believe that all things happen for a reason.  I may not understand it at the moment, but in time I will know what it is trying to teach me.


4.  Keep your word.

If you tell someone that you’re going to do something, do it.  If you someone asks you to do something and you can't do it or don't really want to do it, don't promise it.  This might sound like it only helps those around you but you’d be surprised at the burden this lifts off your shoulders.   It’s the simple art of saying “no”.  I didn’t realize that I had a problem with this until I was loaded with several tasks at my old job and was unsuccessfully struggling to stay afloat.  Deciding between what I wanted to do and what I felt obligated to do was something that I had to learn to do.



Kirsten, The Low Country Socialite and Shelly Carpenter of ShellyCLately and ShellyCStudio are standing on the steps in front of The Cathedral of St. John the Baptist in Savannah Georgia.  Kirsten is wearing a black floral sleeveless dress and looking to her right and is smiling while holding a fan made from African print fabric.  Shelly is standing on the left at the top step and her legs are crossed.  She is smiling and wearing a black knee-length skirt and a plaid shirt.



5.  Be kind- to yourself and everyone else.

First, give yourself a break.  You’re only human!  You’re built to make mistakes and so are the people around you.  Forgive as you would want to be forgiven.  Operate in kindness with your words, your actions and your thoughts.  


6.  Worry less. 

This one is probably the hardest to do and requires several action steps within itself but if you can manage it, you will save yourself to much unnecessary stress.  The best way to do this is to determine what is most important in life.  Don’t get wrapped up chasing material things like wealth.  Instead, chase the things that make you the most content and happy.



I’d love to give a special blessing to anyone who is in the process of reclaiming their peace or anything else that they’ve lost.  It’s not easy but it’s necessary for your survival.  I see you, I acknowledge you and I also pray that you get back all of those things that you lost or gave away in your life journey.



“No one saves us but ourselves. No one can and no one may. We ourselves must walk the path.” — Buddha


Kirsten, The Low Country Socialite is standing in front of The Cathedral of St. John the Baptist in Savannah Georgia.  She is wearing a black floral sleeveless dress and looking over her right shoulder with her lips parted.


Dress – eShakti

African Fan – Doors to Africa

Photography – ShellyCStudio

Location – Cathedral of St. John the Baptist, Savannah GA

 


What have you lost and what are your action steps for reclaiming it?  Let me know in the comments below.


Until Next Time... 







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